Hard to believe my Dad has been gone for almost 30 years – I was at my worst when he left this earth – the last words he ever spoke to me were “don’t you think you have just about used up your nine lives?” So, how do you make amends for that?

In one of my earlier posts I talked about writing a letter to our family doctor – not only was that ‘listening’ to the still small voice, it was part of an amends process to my father. I’m a parent now, and when someone asks about my kids I love being able to talk about how they are doing, that they are happy, etc… my dad had a lot of years where the best he could say was “Beth turned 19 this year” 🙂

As I began to live life on a spiritual path, I got into the habit of visiting, writing, or calling friends of his periodically (no stalking involved here – I mean once or twice a year… or a Christmas card) and letting them know that I was doing OK. Nothing major, no big brags, just that I was alive and well. At first I didn’t even realize that’s what I was doing, it was just something that felt like the right thing to do. Only in hindsight did I realize that was exactly what Dad would have wanted since he couldn’t tell them himself.

How many of us have unwritten chapters with friends and family of our parents out there? Even after they are gone, we have an opportunity to put a smile on their memory – how awesome is that!